Is there anything in your life that you would like to be different than it is right now?
Perhaps to lose weight? Meet a mate? Make more money?
This is the big fundamental issue we all face, because most of us would like to change or improve certain aspects of our lives. If you find yourself in this camp (and who isn’t there at least some of the time), then you will find the following steps very handy and useful. It is a process you can follow to “change anything in your life”.
1. Know What You Want Rather Than What You Don’t Want
No matter what, you have to decide what you do want so that you have something specific to move towards. The reality is that most of us focus on what we don’t want in our lives or don’t want to experience. For example:
➢ I don’t want to be alone anymore.
➢ I don’t want to be overweight.
➢ I don’t want to be broke anymore.
The reason this is so important is that we gradually create what we focus on in our lives. Understand this key concept: where you put your attention is where you get your results. Think about it: if most of your attention is invested in pushing away the things you do not want, you inadvertently remain focused on exactly those things.
Following the examples outlined above, you remain focused on being alone, being overweight, and being broke. Doesn’t sound too pleasant, does it? Of course not, but many people do it their entire lives.
Conversely, we are suggesting you focus on what you do in fact want to be true in your life. Instead of the above consider thinking:
➢ I look forward to having a beautiful man/woman in my life who is a great fit and match for me.
➢ I look forward to living happily at 125 pounds (or whatever your desired weight is).
➢ I look forward to making $250,000 next year.
Understand that this doesn’t mean that you necessarily now know exactly how you are going to make it happen. That would not be realistic.
However, the creative process necessary to get you there will never be sparked if you’re endlessly focused on what you don’t want.
Therefore focusing on what you do want is a crucial first step to catalyze yourself into positive, forward-moving action.