8. You Think Self-Care is Selfish
If you want to feel desire, you have to feel desirable—and before your partner can take care of you, you have to take care of you. Prioritize some time for yourself to do things you like and enjoy, and that make you feel good.
You might think that love means doting on the other person, but do that too long and resentment will build up, stonewalling you against sex. And since feeling well-rested, attractive, and cared for is so tied to desire for women, skimping on your own self-care is not helpful to anyone.